Taking Time Out with Your Partner
Whether it’s your first or your third, having a new baby can be overwhelming, and many times your relationship with your partner ends up on the back burner.
As focused as you are on your new baby, understand that it can be isolating for your partner because they can’t breastfeed and they may feel like they can’t be as close to you or baby.
Here are 6 tips to help you and your partner stay connected.
- Your partner may not be able to breastfeed, but they can do everything else. Help them identify a few responsibilities that are their exclusive tasks, just as breastfeeding is yours. This can be baths, or changing diapers, or putting the baby to sleep.
- Make it clear that your partner is wanted and needed in the feeding routine. Ask them to help clean pump parts, or bottles and nipples. Ask them to be responsible for the diaper bag, and for making sure you have your nursing cover when you go to your in-laws’ house.
- Let them help when you are worried or have questions. They may not have the answer but they can listen and offer support. Remember to let them in – it’s important for them to feel valued and it reassures them that you are still in this together.
- When baby is down for a rest, talk together about things that don’t involve the baby or children.
- Try to connect over a TV show or sports team. Find something for just the two of you that you can do together, even if it’s just once a week.
- When baby is older, take time to have a walk or go get a coffee or see a movie.
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